Saturday, October 18, 2014
2 Imperfect People = 1 Imperfect Marriage
If you followed A Gospel Marriage Moment - 30 Days of Gospel Encouragement for Marriages, thank you!
In the introduction of AGGM I explained that the tidbits of encouragement did not come from a place of success, but rather, a place of failure. I have been married 32 years and I can honesty say that everything I have learned about marriage (that's worth keeping) I learned in the last couple of years since my marriage fell apart. Please do not hear me say that your marriage has to fall apart before you learn anything, that is my story. However, there is something to be said for struggle and difficulty and losing what you think you need in order to be happy.
Gut-wrenching experiences have a way of softening your heart and opening your eyes.
Two and half years ago my husband left - five days before Christmas. For far too long we had pretended that everything was fine. But we knew the truth....
...our relationship was unraveling and eventually the last thread broke.
As painful as that time was, we both look back and know it was the best thing that could have happened. It does not make sense. We would not have chosen to go through it. But we can say without a doubt that the death of our old marriage had to take place in order for God to give us a new one.
Nothing can make the pain of a difficult marriage go away. What can make it a bit easier is knowing that you are not alone. I have talked with enough husbands and wives to know that marriage difficulty is everyone's story. It must be because we are sinners living life side by side 24/7.
Two imperfect people make an imperfect marriage. Together, you can clasp hands and laugh at your imperfections while thanking God for his perfect son.
His grace really is sufficient.
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