Saturday, June 28, 2014

What Sufferers Need Most (aka All Of Us) #Messy

Sufferers don't need fixing, they need loving.

When you are suffering, you don't need people to "come alongside you" with thinly veiled attempts to fix you.

You need a hug.

You need love that says, "I'm not going anywhere." You need a loyal friend who will listen or just sit with you in silence.

Love looks more like, "I'm here and I'm not going anywhere", rather than, "I'll help you as soon as I see you are trying."

Love looks more like, "Bleed all over me", rather than, "Stop your crying and move on."

What compels this sort of love? What could possibly motivate us to love like this?

Only the love of Christ. Jesus, very God, suffered, bled and died. For us. In the midst of our own sin and suffering He did it. Not because we were pretty and fresh and clean. But because we were ugly, rank and dirty. His love for us in the midst of our wretchedness melts our hearts. We can look at our neighbor with compassion and love because we realize we're just like them. We suffer too. We bleed too. Our hearts melt when we see their pain because we know it well. Sufferers make the best comforters. They know how to hold on tight, how to cling when there's little left.

Maybe that's what makes Jesus such a good comforter. Having suffered the ultimate affliction, He is best able to weep with those who weep.

Sufferer... can fall... will be O.K.

Fall into the broad and loving hands of a fellow sufferer - the One who is supremely equipped to catch you, hold you and restore you.


  1. Amen, sister. Thank you for sharing this!

    1. and amen! so appreciate your encouragement