When asked, "What are your thoughts on Women's Ministry?", these four words are by far the most common from women inside the church.
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"I don't measure up."
I don't measure up. I can't do it. I tried, I left. I am not that.
Almost every woman I've talked to has said the same thing.
They have either tried Woman's Ministry and left, or they won't come near it.
The thought of having to cram themselves into the "godly woman" mold is just too much, so they run...or they just stay away.
Before you say, "Those are just a few extreme cases of women who have been hurt by the church", I'd encourage you to do your own informal survey. Ask around and see what you hear. As I have listened to women of all ages in various life stages, I am hearing the same thing. I am forcing myself to listen. By forcing myself, I mean to say I am straining to hear their heart cries. If so many women are saying the same thing,
I (we) need to listen.
I (we) must ask questions.
I (we) cannot ignore the truth.
Google Women's Ministry and you will find several articles and posts on the topic, some are very good. However, I was intrigued recently by a question posed on Facebook. Author, Elyse Fitzpatrick, simply asked the following, "I'd like to know what you think are the dumbest things people tell women they have to do in order to be godly." Over the course of several hours, 446 women weighed in...here are some of the responses:
- Depression is just pride, overcome your pride-overcome depression.
- You need to keep a beautiful yard so the neighbors will see the beauty of Jesus.
- You need to speak softly.
- Isolate children from the world's influences.
- You must nurse.
- Postpartum depression or baby blues can be anticipated and dealt with by loving God and trusting in Him, and more humble.
- Do not talk about your sin or you will give Jesus and Christianity a bad name.